So to speak its just the next day after today. But that one date change, that one reset on calendars and minds is huge shift. Suddenly it’s the new year and voila, all the overrated gimmicks are flowing all over. All resolutions are packed up in the brain like sperm cells and are ready to flow the minute its dawn. But I’d like to reflect on the year gone by in a doing this the first-time manner.
2017 was a mixed bag for me. It was my first year from a decade long career break and I’ve felt it every single day of my life. The safe routine of walking into a closed-door office and dealing with the problems of being in an IT company was self-assuring. Despite the hiccups and problems, it was still affirmative of the fact that I had a job that paid. I had my own financial independence and could decide how to spend that money. It intrinsically bought in respect and a certain ego which now that I look back I quite miss. Having a legit job brought in a lot of layers of respect which this year unfolded for me given my status.
But it was also an eye opener of a kind that made me realize the importance of what I had. It made me realize the right I had to my own money and not trusting anyone blindly even if it’s your loved ones. It may sound crude and blunt, but self-awareness is key. If you’re rubbing your ass off that god-awful office worrying sick about deadlines, wondering if you would have a peaceful evening /weekend /month or year you ought to respect the money that you’re earning off it. For too long I ignored my financial investments and not once did I realize that I was too neck deep into them to have any free money to spend. For too long I was hammered by my traditional and financially conservative parents that you should not spend any money and I mean ANY. Just try every trick in the book to avoid spending any money. They were particularly disappointed when my love marriage with a Guajarati guy did not yield in my improvement on financial matters at all. Well I guess I was just wired wrongly. My attention deficit to all matters financial are shameful and I guess I am feeling the pinch each day of my sabbatical. It in fact reinforced my belief that every perceived ending is a new beginning. It brings in many new revelations that we can work on. Its never really the end. That’s perhaps what makes this world amazing. Epiphany has arrived!!
To round up some of the lessons learnt in 2017 and to also safely post them over are signs of aging, and I admit I am. Here goes:
Trust your instincts – When in Rome, do as the Romans do. If you spend a considerable time in a certain field and pass each year loathing its nature you either step back soon enough to not make the cribbing second nature or you absorb the system and become intrinsic to it. Always trust your instincts. Never stick to a career or a place which makes you feel unhappy or misfit. I guess I have evolved instincts and can safely trust them to conclude. The problem with sticking to this situation is that it should not become a habit. Cribbing and whining can become a habit and it can soon become our character which is unhealthy.
Perspective – Always gain a perspective on what you are into. It helps to constantly weigh in pros and cons of your situation, personal or professional and then move ahead. Love yourself, never ever let go off your happiness and satisfaction in any case. Compromise only when your brain lets you coz the heart does not have logic.
Fail and rise again – Given my stubborn nature, I couldn’t quite fight my inertia to overcome my failure at a given challenge. I guess its time to overcome the inertia and take failure in your stride. Failures are also earned and it’s a lot better than not trying at all.
Power of Now – If anything has been on your dream list or to do list for too long, then there is something wrong with your system. It needs to be done NOW. NOW is a good time to do all the long-procrastinated things. NOW is my key word for the year.
Discipline and Focus – Focus on prioritizing important & urgent things well. An unfinished work is just plain unacceptable. Do not begin anything new unless you finish the unfinished item. Editing can then be effective on something that has been completed. So write-finish it – edit – rewrite- FINISH IT.
Stay hungry and Stay Foolish – Nurturing yourself. Most important, and one must keep inspiring oneself. Take every experience whether good or bad coz that can be a breeding ground of ideas. Like the idea of women sitting outside the trail rooms. Great fodder. Ideation is the second key word. Take every experience and live it. This would never happen with that mother of an IT job that I was breeding on.
I guess I must give myself credit for taking a brave decision too early. I can’t wait to change my course of life. Enough is enough!! #TakeCharge.